Among the many erotic activities, kinks and depravities I enjoy, a particular one is reading/asking to pay pigs and financial submissives about those experiences that aroused them the most.

“I love it when a woman punctuates her orders by referring to me as a ‘bitch” The submissive I asked said. “I derive an emotional and sexual thrill when the dominant female I am serving experiences the power rush and ego boost that goes along with owning her very own submissive male slave.”

By the way, getting them to open up is not an easy task, as most of them will lie about what actually arouses them or they might come across as shy regarding their kink, but once I create a safe space, they are happy to open up and tell me about their darkest fantasies.

This type of submissive is what I call: the embodiment of a masochist. A masochistic person is someone who takes satisfaction, fulfillment, pleasure and gratification through pain, degradation, or self-denial.

In Jungian psychology, the Masochist archetype is one of the many shadow archetypes, which means it encompasses aspects of the personality that are repressed, denied, or deemed unacceptable by the individual. The Masochist archetype represents the darker, more self-destructive impulses within the psyche.

What are the traits of a masochist?

Key characteristics of the Masochist archetype include:

Suffering and Self-denial: Individuals who embody the Masochist archetype may derive a sense of fulfillment or validation from enduring pain, whether physical, emotional, or psychological. This suffering may be self-inflicted or accepted from external sources.

Submission and Dependency: Masochists often seek relationships or situations where they can submit to authority figures or dominant personalities. They may derive a sense of security or identity from being dependent on others or from surrendering their autonomy.

Guilt and Punishment: Masochists may harbor feelings of guilt or unworthiness and believe that they deserve punishment or suffering. They may unconsciously seek out experiences or relationships that reinforce these beliefs.

Repression and Compulsion: The Masochist archetype often involves the repression of positive impulses or desires, leading to compulsive behavior patterns that perpetuate cycles of suffering and self-denial.

So why does being humiliated feels so good?

There is some sense of comfort, familiarity and freedom that comes when recreating certain past experiences of childhood. I have seen that some of my submissives enjoy to be transported to past experiences where they were bullied, insulted, and humiliated being that a strong experience a catalyst to a strong physical emotion, now associated with a sexual experience.

Humiliation doesn’t necessarily refer exclusively to physical pain but can also encompass emotional, psychological, or symbolic forms of suffering, and the meaning of these experiences might vary depending on the submissive.

When humiliation brings adventure and excitement

“It’s about self-destruction and loss (says “James”) The fact that I have a good home, a good wife, a good family…this just means I have more to lose. When you fetishize self-destruction, the fact that it would be an impact to your core support network and throw your life into turmoil is EXACTLY the point. Honestly, I don’t get much out of a Domme saying how hot she is, but that she’s ready to take a match and burn my life to the ground, now I can’t help but dance with this devil”.

Do you think this is rooted with some issues with your wife? I ask.

“It has nothing to do with denigrating my wife, he says, She’s fantastic. It really doesn’t even have much do to with the Domme. She’s hot, don’t get me wrong, but that’s not the point of the fetish. I want to play with fire. I want to feel my life at risk. And my marriage? That IS my life, or at least the part that counts”.

The fantasies I am most attracted to, have to do with the idea of ruin and humilliation, maybe because the role I like to embody as a domme is the one with the pretty, innocent-looking face and sparkling eyes that hide a greedy, sadistic and narcissistic personality.

If you are not familiarized with the pleasure of psychological humiliation you should read here a little about it and then find the chance to also familiarize yourself with the (what I call) ruin fetish. Some individuals find sexual pleasure in recreating a fake scenario where they will be exposed and ruined financially or socially, (read more of it here). These individuals are the ones I consider have traits of the masochistic jungian archetype.

When submission brings comfort, structure and discipline

What I have seeing with my submissive is that they like the idea of being a “passenger” in their own life for once. This is the case for my slave Jhon. In short, Jhon has to be in charge of the schedule and the logistics of the trips that executives who work at the marketing department do, also he is in charge of managing the whereabouts of the celebrities/influencers they work with in marketing.

He has to plan it all, from the moment they leave home, until the moment they land, and how they have to arrange their day around the shooting of the advertisement they are are working on. When he is not working, he has to plan the kid’s extracurricular activities, the financial expenses and the family vacations.

We share some fetishes and kinks, among those we have a strong findom fetish and an erotic hypnosis fetish (click on the words to read more about them).

He finds a lot of freedom in giving me a lot of control in his finances. I can control things to the point that I decide if he eats or not that day. He finds it sort of cathartic, pushing his limits has changed perspective, and helped him overcoming his habit to masturbate to cope with anxiety and stress. He has told me he has reached new levels of discipline and purpose, all because I was able to organize structure around his life.

When humiliation also means redemption, catharsis and gives you meaning

Sometimes, pleasure for humiliation, Subconsciously (as freud stated) could be rooted in feelings of guilt (moral masochism) in which a person derives unconscious sexual gratification in forms of pain that they can view as punishment for their transgressions (being transgressions whatever their interpretation is depending of their moral background).

To touch on this we have to talk about relevant fetishes in the BDSM umbrella term. The worship fetish and slave training (not a fetish per se but a practice). But as I have already talked about this here and here I won’t extend any longer on this article. So go there and read a little about it so we can continue.

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As you can see, the worship fetish and the practice of slave training involve a set of religiousness of practices, rituals and a sense of predictability and comfort inside a system where there are rules and punishments, an altruistic sense on sacrificing themselves for someone in a more elevated position than them such as a goddess, driven by feelings of unworthiness, but bringing catharsis and a sense of pleasure.

Jungian psychology emphasizes the significance of symbols and rituals in the individuation process. BDSM practices often involve the use of symbols, such as specific attire, implements, or rituals, which can carry personal or archetypal meaning for individuals involved. These symbols and rituals may serve as a means of expressing and exploring deeper aspects of the psyche.

The benefits of exploring your submissive role on a safe space

Find meaning, growth and a sense of control over your life

Jung believed that the masochistic tendencies were inherent in the human psyche and were part of the broader exploration of the dualistic nature of human experience. He posited that individuals might unconsciously embrace self-sabotaging behaviors or willingly endure hardships as a way of seeking deeper meaning, growth, or a sense of control over their lives.

Engage in the individuation process

In other words

“know yourself so you can conquer yourself”

-Goddess Vera

In Jungian psychology, the process of individuation involves bringing these shadow aspects into conscious awareness and integrating them into the personality in a healthy and balanced manner. By acknowledging and exploring the Masochist archetype, individuals can gain insight into their patterns of behavior, relationships, and emotional experiences, leading to greater self-awareness and personal growth.

Disclaimer: I am a sexy, smart intellectual FinDomme who loves psychology. This is an aficionado take that is meant to open a discussion and engage individuals into a playful exploration, not to diagnose anyone or meant to be used for professional purposes.

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