How do I condition or train a slave into do whatever I want or please?
So slave training or slave conditioning is a process where the slave goes through a protocol to reinforce the behavior that pleases the Domme and stop behavior that gets in the way of being a good submissive. The basics are here on my post submissive training.
There are two types of conditioning: operant and classical conditioning. The main difference between the two is that in operant conditioning, the behavior is controlled by the reward or punishment, whereas in classical conditioning the association with a stimulus creates reflexive behavior.
In order to train a submissive into an excellent financial servant who is also the best version of himself (conditioning), I need tools (reinforcements).
A Reinforcement
is a consequence that encourages a specific behavior. We have two types of reinforcement, a positive one (reward) and a negative one (Escape/Relief/Avoidance).
Positive Reinforcement (Reward)
Is when the domme provides a positive stimulus in response to a desired behavior. An element I can use here is sexual gratification. As I control the orgasm my submissive have, he might have the luxury of experience an orgasm if he has been a good financial submissive long enough, this means if he has paid his debt contract consistently, has bought me an expensive gift, or has being tributing me consistently. Another kind of positive reinforcement could be my attention, or get exclusive pictures of me (non sexual off course).
Negative Reinforcement (Escape/Relief/Avoidance)
A negative reinforcement consist in Removing an averse stimulus in response to a desired behavior. For example me allowing my sub to remove their chastity device in case they had paid their debt, or put money on my savings account. This can result in either direct response training, or in active avoidance (where they pay in order to avoid being forced into chastity). In short, It means the domme makes a bad feeling (chastity) go away as a reward for good behavior (financial servitude).
What is Chastity? the domme decides that the sub should abstain from sexual activity, including masturbation. In a BDSM context, this refers to a dominant controlling a submissive’s sexual activity, especially using a chastity device to lock up the genitals and physically prevent sexual activity.
Punishment
Is a consequence that discourages a specific behavior
Positive Punishment (Punishment)
Providing an averse stimulus in response to an undesired behavior. For example the financial submissive is avoiding their tributes or is not offering gifts at all. He will, for example, forced to exercise vigorously, also known as forced fitness. A ruined orgasm, could be also used as a punishment, here a dominant partner arouses the submissive to the point of orgasm but then denies them the pleasure of climax. A typical practice would involve a submissive being placed in bondage and the dominant either teasing him or performing hand relief on his erect penis in order to induce an orgasm. In the final stages the dominant stops whatever they are doing. This still results in ejaculation but it is not pleasurable for the submissive. Ruined orgasms are another fun way to torture a submissive. I like to play with scenarios and fantasies around ruined orgasms in my findom/femdom erotic stories section.
Controlled orgasms
Another way of training a submissive (depending on the dynamic domme/submissive) might imply orgasm control. The goddess (dominant) may decide when a submissive is allowed to cum into orgasm. In the financial domination context, Sometimes, she decides when to give him release – at a price! Sometimes a goddess may decide that the pay pig should not ejaculate at all. This frustrates the paying slave who may then need to pay even more to call the goddess next time.
Negative Punishment (Penalty)
Removing a positive stimulus in response to an undesired behavior. For example a submissive will stop having my attention or my messages, also known as abandonment or ignoring. Abandoning or ignoring a submissive is a psychological tool that plays into the fears of the submissive and can be very humiliating.
How to deal with bad habits or bad behavior of a submissive over time
During the time my slave and I interact I observe our interaction and decide what attitudes or behaviors are getting in the way of him serving me properly. At best I aspire to eliminate his flaws, reduce the frequency of obnoxious behavior, prevent it, or substitute it for more appropriate behavior. Let me explain each in detail:
Differential Reinforcement Of Other Behavior (DRO) – ELIMINATE bad behavior
Basically I will reward the absence of the behavior that bothers me, for example: If my submissive is constantly contacting me with the wrong protocol, this means without a tribute, calling me by the wrong name or harassing me with messages, I will only acknowledge his existence when he follows the protocol and be non responsive when he acts out of protocol. The positive reinforcement will be my attention.
In cases that the behavior could not be eliminated, one can aspire to at best reduce it (Differential Reinforcement Of Low Rates Of Behavior (DRL)) to acceptable levels by rewarding improvements, prevent it ( Differential Reinforcement Of Incompatible Behavior (DRI) – PREVENT) by strengthening other behaviors that are incompatible, or substitute (Differential Reinforcement Of Alternate Behavior (DRA)).
Based on the information me as a goddess have to spend some time observing my submissives, and writing a protocol for it to be implemented consistently, I will adjust with time as necessary.
Training Without a Dominant: buy audios
Audios are widely used to train a submissive, in my personal experience, most submissives ask for them, such as audios like the ones here, and audio submissive training sessions like those here. Audios of that nature might also be known as mind Control, mind games, brainwashing. And they consist of a dominant controling behavior, decisions and emotions of a submissive through taking control of their mind. The idea behind mind control is that the dominant can take over control of the submissive’s mind without them even knowing it. Mind control is not just a session activity, and would often continue into general life, eventually leading potentially to 24/7 slavery. This is more discussed in depth on my post of alternate mindsets for submissive men post and my post on brainwashing.
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